Tips On Planning Your Wedding And What To Do If You Have An Uneven Wedding Party.
Your wedding party is your support group, your A-team, your wedding day front line. Here’s some great tips on creating your perfect wedding party
Think twice before you ask.
While it may be tempting to ask all of your favorite friends to be in your wedding party the minute you get engaged, don’t. Take your time. Give yourself at least a month, if you can, to mull over the options.
Bridesmaids and groomsmen are meant to consist of the closest, most important people in you and your partner’s lives. Before you begin asking people to be in your wedding party its important to discuss with your future husband what kind of wedding you dream of having. If having a traditional, even number of people in your wedding party is what you both envision for your special day, talk with your future husband about who each of you are considering asking to be a part of it.
There is no rule of etiquette that dictates the number of bridesmaids or groomsmen or that they must pair up. While many couples strive for symmetry, it is often the case that there are more bridesmaids than groomsmen or vice versa. It’s also not unusual to see a male attendant on the bride’s side or a female one on the groom’s.
What do you do when you just can’t come up with an even number?
If you find yourself in a situation with more bridesmaids than groomsmen (or vice versa) don’t sweat it! Having an uneven wedding party is not tacky in the least, no matter what the difference in number is between your side and his. The quality of the people in your wedding party demonstrates your personality. If you’re worried about uneven photos, have the photographer play with your party’s line-up during picture-taking and the same goes with the recessional, you can arrange the wedding party in such a way to have them walk down the isle paired up or singly and if you’re not stuck on tradition you can arrange them to stand up with you in a guy girl guy girl line. Have fun with it, that’s the point anyway!
The most important thing, and the thing that all the guests are really there for, is to see you and your fiancee get married. Guests are there to see YOU be in love and be united with your fiancee; I doubt they will care if there’s an uneven number in your wedding party. Where people stand or sit or who they walk in with is not as important as having the people you care about most by your side on your wedding day.
Don’t ask someone just because
Remember, wedding parties are meant to include the people closest to each of you. Planning a wedding is stressful as it is, so do not feel obligated to include more people than you’d really care to have in your wedding party therefor don’t just invite a random friend to be in your wedding party to even up the sides.
Maybe your friends with another couple because your fiancé is good buddies with the guy. That doesn’t mean you have to ask his girlfriend/wife to be a bridesmaid because her boyfriend/husband is one of the groomsmen or vice versa.
Asking someone to be a member of the wedding party is not only an honor, but a pretty big commitment. Your wedding is your special day and about celebrating the love between you and your future husband, not about the wedding party.
Consider the size of your wedding – Formal or informal plays a role in the size of the wedding party
The number of attendants selected is traditionally based on the formality of the wedding and number of guests invited. Only the most formal of weddings have a larger wedding party of 5 or more on each side.
Having a large wedding party when having a smaller more intimate wedding looks overkill and obnoxious.
You can have as many (or few) bridesmaids and groomsmen as you like. The average wedding party size is eight – four bridesmaids and four groomsmen. Use that as a guide when you decide.
Depending on formality, go larger or smaller. For a smaller wedding with around 50 to 60 guests, have no more than four, but for a larger wedding of, say, 150, you could go up to 12 if you really wanted to. Just keep this in mind: More isn’t always merrier. The more bridesmaids or groomsmen you have, the more people to coordinate with, find a flattering tux or dress for, and work around schedules with (can you imagine trying to find a free weekend for a bachelorette party with 12 bridesmaids?).
If there are a lot of people you want to include in your wedding party but just can’t, give them other roles, like usher, ceremony reader, candle lighter, or guest book attendant.